How to be authoritative parents (권위 있는 부모 되는 방법)

How to be authoritative parents
권위 있는 부모 되는 방법

1. Admit your mistake
   The first step is acknowledging your part in the problem to both yourself and to your children. Mistake is what makes us human. You are more effective as a parent if you show your child to own up to your mistakes and learn from them in order to move forward in a more positive direction. It's going to come back around if you try to give off the impression that you never make mistake, and if you do, it's the worst thing that can happen to someone, because that's role modeling, too. (부모도 인간이며 실수할 수 있음을 인정하고 보여주어야 한다. 만일 부모는 완벽하게 실수하지 않는 존재라고 아이가 인식할 경우, 부모의 실수를 보게 되면 그것은 최악의 사건이 되고 부모를 더 이상 신뢰할 수 없게 된다)
   How can you talk to your kids about your mistake? You can simply say, “Emma, now that I have had a chance to cool of and think about it, I was wrong to take away all your privileges and possessions because you refused to do your homework. Next time, I'm going to try to pause and calm down before I give you consequences. Now let's talk about how homework time is going to work form now on.”
   Saying “I was wrong” may be the hardest three words to get out of your mouth. Yet, by role-modeling that accountability, you are actually speaking many more three word phrases: “I respect you,” “I am human,” “I love you.”
   
   
2. Set fair and clear, consistent limits but also be flexible with these limits if you need to be
   Authoritative parents seek to create a home environment with enough structure to make children feel secure but not so much to scare them off trying anything new and different. The rules are designed to keep the children safe and also provide a basis for beginning to relate to the world in general. Authoritative parents see correcting the child as an opportunity rather than a challenge or a duty. Instead of simply punishing and assuming the child got the message, the parents will take steps to help the child grasp why the action was not acceptable and also assist the child in identifying alternative actions that would have been acceptable. What's most important is that the child understanding the reason behind the correction.
   Over time, authoritative parenting encourages creative thinking rather than following rules in order to avoid punishment.
   
   
3. Respect your child's opinion even when it differs to your own and encourage your child to be responsible for their action.
   There are a few tips for teaching your child responsibility.
   

• Assign some accountability: age-appropriate chores and adding in a little financial incentive can teach your child responsibility and how to manage finances.
  Chores are responsibility and tasks that you pass onto your kids as their contributions to your household. Having a job around the house is a way to belong. When someone contributes, they matter and they are important. Doing chores nurtures self-esteem. It teaches children good decision making because they learn self-discipline.
  a. Toddlers/Preschoolers: put dirty clothes in the hamper, put away toys, help put groceries away, replace paper towels and toilet paper, put out napkins for dinner, Empty dishes into the garbage, clean windows
  
• Let her make decisions: You can give younger children limited options, but give her the chance to choose from them.
  
• Foster independence: Let her practice getting dressed, washing her hands, packing her bag to be more self-reliant.
  
• Set a good example: Take your own responsibility seriously. Keep your promise and be on time to set an example.
  
• Talk her through difficult situations: Instead of automatically telling her what she should do, guild her through the process of coming to a conclusion on her won. Ask questions and encourage her to think it through with your support.
  
• Show her the bigger picture: The ultimate goal is teaching your child to act right because she wants to, not because she was told to.Explain to your child how her doing her part is helping the family as a whole